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"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real." "Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit. "Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt." "Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."(Velveteen Rabbit)

Well, can you open a jar? I have a time of it. A water bottle, can you open a plastics water bottle? When I open a water bottle the water goes all over. I squeeze the bottle, as I’m turning the cap and the next thing you know I have a shower. I’m sure none of you have ever had that happen to you. So let’s talk about that a little bit. When opening doors, opening jars and opening water bottles, what kind of hand do you have for the opening these things? Some of you are left-handed, some right handed and some of you are ambidextrous. No matter which hand you use, sometimes items are difficult to get open.

Now the term velvet glove iron first describes delivery of an action that either has happened or is needed to happen. Have you heard the term or used the term yourself? Delivery of undesirable action may come with a velvet glove and an iron fist. I have charge of an iron fist and iron hand, minus the “velveteen rabbit” cover. Ask anyone who has worked with me. I’m fairly sure they can fill your ear with trepidation. Velveteen rabbit... That’s about...wait do you

remember what that story was detailing? Huh? Wonder on that point a second. Returning to iron hand..... I have a heavy hand. I am right handed by nature. I tried to teach myself to be ambidextrous one entire year during school. The use of both hands became successful and arduous. I thought being left-handed looked cool. I really wanted to be one of the cool kids. All of you that are left handed out there I want you to know I admire your left handedness. You have gone through the world having to do many things backwards to what was naturally your hand.

Heavy-handed I am heavy-handed. I break faucets in hotel rooms. I cannot figure out how to turn the faucet on in the shower or how the faucet actually works on